they’re so afraid of me how do I train them :(
I’ve three budgies and they all needed some training of a sort. I started training them by giving them millet by hand. That gains some trust, and teaches them that you’re the food-bringer. This goes well if you’re also giving them seeds.
To train them to perch on your finger is a little more difficult, but you should always approach them slowly with your hand while they’re in their living space. If they back away, you should withdraw your hand and repeat the process again. Best to at least put your hand in their cage to desensitize them from thinking you’re a malevolent food-bringer. Others suggest to stay in the same area as your birds, but I don’t think they get much socialization from you if you’re not interacting with them one way or another.